Are you an impostor?

Have you ever thought success is for other people and not for you? Social media has made impostor syndrome an epidemic. Keeping up with the Jones's has gone to the next level, watching your friends and families, or even worse strangers highlight reels everyday can have you feeling like your life is not enough, like you are not enough. That internal voice can start whispering, talking or even straight up yelling about how there is no need to chase that dream in your heart because she is doing better than you ever could anyway! Ugh! Sound familiar? Let's to find some ways to keep that voice at bay!

Turn your competition into your inspiration
As most of you know, I started a business back in April partnering with a all professional makeup and skin care company. As with anything, there are moments of "what was I thinking? I have no clue what I am doing". I think this is a normal thought, anytime you dip your toe into the world of entrepreneurship. When those moments arise, I choose not to stay in that thought, I move to "just stay consistent"and "help serve others", and let everything else fall into the place, this works for everything else in my life, and it works with this too.

There are some incredibly successful women in this company (I think this is true, in any company), when you start looking around at them, It is so easy to look at her and think I could never do that, I can't do it like her, I could never get to that level. Here's the truth, sister, if you keep telling yourself that, you are right, you won't. Not because you aren't absolutely capable of hitting that level, but because you won't do the work necessary once you have convinced yourself it won't happen. What if you saw that girl on social media and thought wow, she had a day 1 when she started from zero too, she had rough patches too, she deals with self doubt too and despite all those things, she is killing it. If she can do it, I can do it to! She is living proof that my goals are possible!

Proximity is Power
If you follow me in any capacity, you know that I am pretty obsessed with Rachel Hollis. Rach and I are not friends... yet, but I do feel like she is a teacher and coach for me. I listen to her podcasts and I read her books, she is teaching me without ever knowing me. While I wait patiently for Rach and I to be friends in real life, I have people currently in my everyday life that help me level up.

"If you're circle isn't supporting you, you don't have a circle, you have a cage!" Wow, did that hit you too? Being around people who lift you and up and encourage you to be the best version of YOU is a GAME CHANGER. Period! I have seen this in my own life when my circle got smaller and more intentional. Take some inventory today on the people around you are helping you to level up. No one that's doing better than you will discourage you wanting to take a chance on something bigger.

Flip it and Reverse it
Try this mindset flip next time you get to a place of questioning yourself and your skills. Instead of saying how scared you are, use the word "excited". Your brain cannot differentiate between the feeling in your body of being excited and being scared, so you get to tell it which one you are! Before a speech, or presentation, a date, or going live on Facebook tell yourself you are excited as hell to get to do this thing and see how it changes for you!

If you are really honest with yourself, at the bottom of all those stories of fear and comparison, are "I am not enough". Not good enough, not pretty enough, not successful enough, and it can go on and on. I have heard this saying a few times and this seems like a good topic to bring it up "If this thing in your heart is coming up, you are capable of doing it, it is for you". We spend (ahem, waste) time convincing ourselves that things aren't possible without ever taking a shot. Flip it in your brain and take the shot, babe! You got this!

I am sure you can tell by this blog, but I am very passionate about this subject, there are so many people living with a dream they won't chase because they are afraid to fail, or afraid to let people see them fail. Those opinions don't pay your bills, those opinions don't support your kids, those opinions won't change your life! Please be the person who takes a shot, do it scared, step out on faith and take a chance! No one tells stories about the times they stayed in their comfort zones! You can do this, and I am already cheering for you!

XO Jess